Thank You

Thanks so much for following my blog for all of these years. I will continue blogging at: http://www.umcdiscipleship.org/blog very soon.

To find ongoing project announcements, go to: https://www.facebook.com/UMChildMin/

Talking to Children Following the Election: https://www.facebook.com/notes/umc-ministry-with-children/safetypin-of-solidarity/1280189438698990

Thanks so much for your feedback and support.

peace,
melanie

The Children’s Sabbath 2016

“Children of Promise: Closing Opportunity Gaps”

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How will you observe Children’s Sabbath?

Every year someone asks me, “What is Children’s Sabbath”? Each year I offer the same response, but this year I want to share the importance of participating in The National Observance of Children’s Sabbaths® in our communities and congregations. Our children are hungry. One in five children in the United States lives in poverty, behind Latvia and Bulgaria. Our children face hunger everyday in a country where we discard produce because of natural “blemishes”. The impact on the healthy development of children cannot be ignored by the Church.

A few things we know: 

  • America’s child poverty rate is one of the highest among industrialized nations.
  • Child poverty creates gaps in cognitive skills.
  • Child hunger jeopardizes children’s health and ability to learn.
  • Child poverty fuels the intergenerational cycle of poverty.
  • For more information: Poverty Report

The National Observance of Children’s Sabbath is the opportunity for us to live into the General Rules of The United Methodist Church by: 

  • Celebrating and strengthening existing efforts for children
  • Discovering and sharing new opportunities to help children
  • Praying, studying, and reflecting as a community of faith
  • Taking action
  • Committing to new, long-term efforts

The National Observance of Children’s Sabbaths® includes worship, but it is not a traditional Children’s Sunday.

  • Children’s Sunday is a day set aside to celebrate children as active participants in the life of the church. Children serve as worship leaders throughout the service, including preaching.
  • Children’s Sabbath is an ecumenically celebrated weekend committed to educating the congregation and community about the state of today’s children and families in America. Children provide leadership through music and reading of scripture.

This important weekend is our opportunity to serve our children. In the words of St. Ignatius of Loyola, “Go forth and set the world on fire.”

RESOURCES:

2016 National Observance of Children’s Sabbaths® Manual

How Children’s Sabbath and Children’s Sunday Are Different

Planning Children’s Sabbath Webinar Recording with Shannon Daley-Harris

Further Information for Observing Children’s Sabbath

 

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After Traumatic Events…Listen

The Psalmist says,
“Be merciful to me, O God, be merciful to me,
for in you my soul takes refuge;

in the shadow of your wings I will take refuge, until the destroying storms pass by.”

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Lord, Hear Our Prayer!

Once again we stand in a place where we need to reassure children that they are safe even when we may not feel safe ourselves. Shock, fear, anxiety, anger, and confusion are normal, so the adults in the lives of our children need to be equipped to respond and act.  Through our baptism, we promise to surround our children “with a community of love and forgiveness.”  We are that community. So, together we…

Support One Another in Ministry with Children: https://youtu.be/iJ_xayJFS7A

Pray with children for the victims of the shooting.  Simple prayers like: Dear God, help and bless the people who were harmed. Guard them all with your care. Amen.

Discuss openly with children what your family and congregation are doing to help those who have been hurt and are still hurting.

Limit exposure to continuing news stories and hold adult conversations only when children are not present. This will limit trauma by protecting children from ongoing media images of this travesty that may only contribute to fear and helplessness.

Reassure children as you listen to their fears.  Children experience the same feelings as adults, so it is important and reasonable to validate their feelings while keeping a positive outlook on the future.

Share your own feelings with your children.  Fear is a part of the human condition, and it is appropriate to affirm feelings of fear.  There are also books that are appropriate for helping children cope with what they are feeling. A list is below.

Contact organizations in your area that address the needs of children.  Following traumatic events, these organizations are ready to answer your questions and respond to your concerns.

Provide structure through routine and activity. Routines and activities help regain a sense of control and security when so much feels out of control.

Make objects that encourage play reenactment of the images children observe during and after a traumatic experience.  Children learn through play, and often use actions rather than words to express their fears or anxieties.

Encourage children to draw or write whatever comes to their minds, or give them a question or topic to draw about. Create a group mural or collage that illustrates the images children have seen. Follow up by listening to what they may have to say about how they are feeling.

Do good. Doing good for others helps children overcome the sense of powerlessness.  There are many ways to be helpful in your community and around the world: http://www.umcor.org/UMCOR/Relief-Supplies

Ongoing communication is helpful for validating children’s feelings about the images they see or the conversations they hear about traumatic events.  Most importantly, end each conversation on a positive note by assuring children of God’s love.  Scripture, like “God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble” or “God is a safe place to hide, ready to help when we need him,” different translations from Psalm 46 is one example of scripture that can bring children comfort.

Slides for use on church screens: RespondingToChildrenInTroublingTimes_2016

Comprehensive Resource Lists

A Resource List for Helping Children Cope with Disasters – Discipleship Ministries

Collaborative List from Children’s Ministers – Ministry with Children FaceBook Group

Resources for Ministers, Teachers, and Parents

Preparing for Traumatic Events in the Lives of Children Webinar

In Times of Pain and CrisisDiscipleship Ministries

Fred Rogers on Scary News from PBS

Helping Children Cope with Frightening News from Child Mind Institute

Helping Children Cope with Trauma and Stress by Jamie Howard, PhD

Reconciliation Webinar

Slides SCAC_DisasterResponse

 

Books for Children

Water Bugs & Dragonflies: Explaining Death to Young Children by Doris Stickney

The Memory Box by Mary Bahr

The Fall of Freddie the Leaf by Leo Buscaglia

Feelings by Aliki. — Helps children to identify and explain their feelings.

To Everything by Bob Barner. — Changes that bring both joy and sorrow are part of life.  Includes discussion questions and activities guide.

Bedtime for Frances by Russell Hoban.  Illustrated by Garth Williams. — Reflects specific fears of children at bedtime.

Mama Do You Love Me? by Barbara M. Joosse.  Illustrated by Barbara Lavalle. — An inuit mother reassures her child that love does not diminish in difficult times.

Abiyoyo by Pete Seeger.  Illustrated by Michael Hays. — Fighting a monster through music encourages children to explore feelings through pretend play.

The Little Old Lady Who Was Not Afraid of Anything by Linda Williams. — An interactive and rhythmic tale about feeling scared.  Excellent for group time and as a flannel-board story.

 

peace,
melanie

 

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